There are times when one feels at peace. In that moment, dealing with a difficult person becomes a “no thing” and so easy, it hardly requires any effort. Every person must have had this feeling of peace at one point or another. Usually it occurs when feeling grateful, or happy to see someone or achieve something. That moment. That feeling. In that “zone” no person can take away from you that peace no matter what. To the opposite, others might be touched by that peace and either choose to stay away, or become peaceful themselves. This high moment, is not to be confused with “ego induced highs” or drug induced highs. The latter highs are short lived and can be followed by painful periods of “low.” Ego induced highs are short lived and come from the ego telling one how superior they are, how great, how invincible, compared to others, and comes from win – lose scenarios. There is a big difference. The feeling I am talking about is more of gratefulness, love, and comfort in being who you are, including your vulnerability and all that is in the essence of you. At that moment, everything around you, you accept, as is, and even love and be grateful for it.
When you are in that moment that is so hard to describe, no difficult person can shake you out of it: the manipulators, the liars, the hypocrites, the abusers, no one. Whoever felt this moment, and most do at one point or another, will know. Albeit, some will experience it more often than others.
But why? Why, in those moments of peace, do we become so comfortable with ourselves? I am not sure. However, if we can simulate that feeling whenever we encounter a difficult person, or better yet, get ourselves in that mood beforehand in preparation, it will make these encounters much easier. There are some people who are able to experience these moments more than others. The important question is what do they do differently?
I have been reading a few new books on the human psyche, and it seems if you choose to, you can trick your mind into anything. Your true self can over power and beat your mind hands down, without any struggle, but by choosing to be present and accepting. Many experts claim that you can imagine yourself in that moment of peace to get the feelings that you would if you were in it. For example, think of the last time you had this peaceful feeling. bring it into memory. Remember how you felt, how you must have looked, and then be. Tell yourself, “if I was in that moment, how would I react to this conversation or situation?” then act accordingly. Then, you ARE in that moment. This is not hard, but what is hard is making that choice to accept those feelings and be in that moment. Even though, ironically, one IS already there. Such an irony. It is so funny, yet so sad. Sometimes our ego fights so hard to keep us in pain, as if that proves its worth and the need for our mind to think more.
My words are those of a novice, like a child who just found out that there is more to the world than his crib. Even though his parents have always told him this, but still is at awe of the experience.