Ten Things That Happen When We Criticize Others
- Our brains get smaller. Since we are criticizing, we do not want to know or learn why someone is behaving in a certain way. Since we already judged it, that means we do not need to understand. Hence a smaller brain.
- Our ego gets bigger. After a while, we notice we are really good at criticizing, and everyone is making mistakes, and we are catching them, so we must be perfect.
- We become less tolerant. Since I know and they do not, and I am right and they are not, I do not have to tolerate their “incompetence.”
- We become agitated. Since we cannot tolerate, we get angry and shaken. We get imbalanced. In that state, something will always feel wrong and we will not know what it is.
- We lose a grip on who we are. Out of balance means not centered. Which means you cannot be in touch with self.
- We start wanting everyone to be like us. Because we are perfect and they are not. At least we are more perfect than they are.
- We become obsessed with the righteousness as we see it. Everybody else is too rigid or too loose or too much of this or that. Nothing measures up to our standards.
- We hate. Since no one measures up, we start hating imperfection in people.
- We hurt. When we hate, we start hurting those we hate, because they deserve it. We hurt with negative words, gestures, and some times worse.
- We lose. Because we now cannot see the beauty in all things, and the good in everyone. We lose beauty, love, presence, and being.